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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]The 28 YO I dated was a mechanical engineer.  She was hot and smart.

Loooks go a long way for sure.  She could have been a hair dresser for all I care . She treated me well, was sexy and fun to be around.  She was a nice person.[/b]

The person I’m seeing now is 8-9 years younger  than me and works at PWC.  Once again, former athlete in college, thicc not thick, works out every day, likes sex, super sweet to me and she’s hot.  Once again, she could be a cashier at Home Depot and I could care less it’s the other qualities she has.  It’s nice she has money and has bought me dinner a couple of times - and I appreciate that -but she also wouldn’t have to and I’d still be attracted to her a lot.

Frankly I’m not used to being treated so well as I’ve been dating and married .  I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do honestly as I’ve never been treated so nicely before except by the last two women I’ve dated or am dating. Usually women are bitter, angry, ghost you, sleeping with four guys at once…etc.  so I thought that’s what it was going to be like so I did the same thing, was sleeping with a few women at once.  It’s weird finding someone who is actually a good person and the last two changed my view   [/quote]

Why didn’t it work with the 28 year old hot chick?

Honestly so many of these posts from men just absolutely scream “I haven’t done the work and don’t understand my contribution to my failed relationships.”  Get therapy dude.[/quote]

I love it when women come back and scream “you haven’t done the work” as a way to absolve themselves of their bad behavior and not take accountability for their actions. It didn’t work out with the 28-year-old because life goals change for people as they get older. We’re still friends and still talk, unfortunately it wouldn’t work out long-term. I understand what it takes to be a relationship, unfortunately, a lot of women don’t and all they do is take from you which is why I’m not used to being treated so nicely when it does happen. [/quote]
Did you have any intention of marrying her or having kids with her? Men have this delusion when they date much younger women that these women will continue to want to play house and be the Tinker Bell to his Peter Pan. They think these women don’t want to or will get over their desire to get married and have kids. The reality check is that most women do want to get married and have their own kids. [/quote]

You are very naive in the way you view life.

There are TWO people in a relationship.  If the women wants to date to get married - fine.  If the man wants to date to be in a relationship - fine.  If the two don't see eye to eye then the relationship will end.  I'm the guy in the early 40s who's dated a lot of younger ladies.  NONE of my relationships ended poorly.  And none of the ladies I dated talked about getting married.

Not everyone thinks like you and the problem with women like you is you're too damn focused on MARRIAGE.  You realize you have to get to know someone very very very well before you should get married.  You can't get to know someone WITHOUT DATING THEM for a loooong time.  Take it from someone who is divorced.  I made the huge mistake of marrying my ex and she turned out to be NOTHING like what she presented herself to be.  So, I have the RIGHT to date anyone I want for as long as I want.  It's a two way street.  If my girlfriend doesn't think we're on the same page we break up.

The fact that you think it's horrible that men date to be in a relationship FIRST before thinking about marriage is laughable.  [/quote]

NP. The issue is that younger women often don't have the confidence to say what they want in the beginning stages of a relationship, so they are more vulnerable to getting strung along in a relationship without a future. I remember dating a very wealthy, attractive, never-married 40-something in my twenties thinking I won the jackpot and he just hadn't met someone like me yet (many years later, he's still dating 20-somethings). Women with more experience just read the room better.  [/quote]

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