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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because society is struggling, children are struggling and our birth rate is falling.

That doesn't mean that their ideas will work, but I think that's why it's coming up.

Also, control of women is a priority for some pundit groups. [/quote]

Agreed. The research is quite clear that children  raised in two parent households fair much better, even when controlling for income. It really does a disservice to children and society to ignore reality.

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Which makes me wonder how “the research” questions get framed. Most children do well when they have strong, stable, ongoing relationships with more than one adult. There are two parent families with unmarried parents.  There are families and households that include very involved extended family members.  How many different types of families did “the research” actually look at?

It really does a disservice to children and society to ignore the reality that there are multiple types of families — and some serious drawbacks to the white western focus on nuclear families which often have extended family and community ties.  
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I dont know- my grandparents were from a more traditional culture and while both lost their moms at young ages and had active loving fathers, grandparents etc, the more westernized one who grew up with no step siblings/parent was much more functional/well adjusted- one of them grew up in a polygamous family, lots of love, money and support but there is a HUGE difference in success between the different types of upbringing in that family- the ones who had no mother were emotional basket cases and passed their trauma down, just lived off of inheritance.  the ones with moms and a dad did better, had careers, much better adjusted. other side of the family that was more westernized is SOOOO much more normal and has more degrees, better paying jobs etc .. despite the polygamous grandparent coming from enormous generational wealt, their  family  are also grasping and lazy and bad at school and try to weasel out of hard work at every opportunity.  the 2 parent nuclear family is the best way, maybe living near extended family and having strong bonds is good but the constant drama of a parents love life is a drain on emotional resources parents who are married to their kids' other parent just dont have. [/quote]

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