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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn’t change my name after marriage but I did after I had my first baby. I’m sure it was all the hormones, but I couldn’t stand not having the same name as her. It was a bit of a hassle and I still have a credit card with my maiden name, but overall it was no big deal, either professionally or personally. The world is used to people changing their names and there are procedures in place to do so.

[b]I understand the patriarchy argument, but ultimately, the last name I had at birth is as arbitrary as the last name my husband had at birth.[/b] Both were the product of 30+ generations of couples having the same last name and unless there’s a hereditary title or something, it doesn’t really signify.

I also do a ton of volunteer work with my kid’s school’s PTA. I see forms filled out and donations made where the parent’s and child’s last names don’t match. I also see where they do match. Either way is extraordinarily common and nobody cares or judges. Just make sure if your name is different that you put down your kids name! If I don’t know you, I have no idea that the permission slip signed by Larla Jones is for Larlo Smith![/quote]

If the man's and the woman's names are equally arbitrary, [b]why do you rarely see children being given their mother's surname[/b] or men changing their surname to match that of his wife's/children? There's nothing equal about how surnames are chosen. Everyone has the right to choose any surname they want but to argue that the tradition is not unequal is dishonest.[/quote]

[b]Until 2002, married women in DC were required by law to give their children their husband's last name.

Think about that, people......2002! [/b]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/local/2002/05/25/dc-yields-to-parents-on-babies-surnames/073666df-7cb1-4fd6-9058-1c1590880acc/

Many other states had similar laws which have long been overturned on the basis of equal rights. [/quote]

What on earth...[/quote]

I have a friend who changed doctors in the middle of her pregnancy in order to deliver in Maryland, for this very reason. Her father was a Holocaust survivor, the only member of his family who did not die in the death camps. My friend wanted to give her child her last name (her father's last name) so that his name would continue to the next generation, and she was not permitted to do this if she delivered in the District.

Crazy.[/quote]

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