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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't let these people gaslight you into thinking you are wrong for wanting relations with your wife.

In marriage each of you have a monopoly on the other person's intimate life. It is wrong for the person who has the monopoly to cut off access.
Every woman on this thread, in their heart, knows its wrong and the shaming language is just simply gaslighting.

9 time out of 10 when a wife give all these excuses about how the husband just isn't romantic or didn't do the right thing to get her in the mood is just making excuses for the simple fact that she isn't attracted to you and that is not your fault. It is a universal phenomenon that women want sex before marriage, but once they get what they want (wedding + baby) they no longer want sex. They blame the man but it is mostly their biology and attitude. The husband no longer excites them because they were using sex as a means to an end and once they get those things they no longer need to use sex.

Moreover, there is a simple fact that women say they want a nice domestic man that takes care of kids and does housework but not really.
What they want is the "beauty and the beast" fantasy where there is a big scary brooding man (also rich) that nobody but them can tame but she can tame him because she is more special than any other woman. What the "beauty and the beast" fantasy doesn't show is what happens after Bell marries the beast.... once he starts being nice he isn't big and scary anymore she doesn't get excited by him and she cuts off sex. She starts thinking about how she should have married Gaston. she then starts picking little fights with the beast because she knows he is domesticated and will not bite her. eventually she cheats with Gaston and when the beast finds out she tells him its his fault because he didn't fulfil her emotional needs.[/quote]

I was ready to roll with the casual man/woman stereotyping - because that's how we roll around here. But the extended Beauty and the Beast metaphor just got weird. [/quote]

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