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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you talked to your doctors about how the waiting is affecting you mentally?  If it bothered me to that extent, I would push to get it out sooner rather than later.

The fact you can wait for 2.5 years is an excellent sign that it isn’t as serious as you think.  Your doctors may not know that you are in a bad headspace and could either move it up or reassure you.[/quote]

It's as serious as I think. They do know it's stressful and we have weighed the pros/cons of surgery now/later and I understand their recommended timing.  It doesn't mean it isn't hard.

I'm not asking for people to second guess my care team or challenge their decisions with very limited information (realizing I've provided very few details). I have thought a LOT about this for the past 2.5 years and didn't really come here for more discussion about that part of what's been on my mind so I guess I'm a little surprised by so much focus on that. It feels as though I need to prove to some posters here that it's serious enough for them to believe it's serious or it's nothing I should worry about and my husband should be off the hook for any support. I'm not interested in proving this to anyone in this discussion. Maybe that's interesting or important to you but it feels to me like you're missing the point.

I have felt disappointed in his level of attention to what feels to me like a significantly terrifying and worrisome situation. I have felt sad and lonely not being able to talk to the person with whom I share a home and a family and a life.  It is what it is, I realize.....but it has sucked.

I'm going to stop responding now and let the conversation wind down because several of the comments feel like another stressor that I don't need right now. Thanks to the people who have offered thoughtful replies. I appreciate those different perspectives, which is what I was after.

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This is really the type of thing where one session with a marriage counselor could clear so much up and help so much in terms of communication and resentment.[/quote]

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