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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP said she has been married for years - so this happened years ago, and her ILs are probably boomers and they have a more traditional mindset. I was married in 1996 and my ILs did not contribute to our wedding costs at all and no one including me batted an eye about it.

Now I’m the mother of two sons in their 20s and of course I’ll share all of the costs of my sons’ weddings with the parents of my sons’ future spouses, or contribute as much as I can but in any event treat the matter the same regardless of whether my kids are sons or daughters. [/quote]

It’s easier if you create a financial balance between the cost of day-before events and day-of events and then assign the day before to the groom and family and assign the day of to the bride and family.  That gives autonomy to each side on each day because too many cooks spoil the broth and you don’t want the ill will that arises from interference and micromanaging.  I think some of these brides/families want to have control over everything yet get a big contribution from the groom’s side.  But money talks.[/quote]

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