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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s inconsiderate to ask any HS senior but it’s rude to ask a stranger.  As many posters have explained, life is different than it was 20 or 30 years ago. [/quote]

Why is it different, though? How is it any different than "what do you do?" when meeting another adult and engaging in small talk.

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Because they are only applying to schools. It's just wishful thinking in some cases. Why do you think they need to share this with you? They don't currently go to any college so they aren't "doing" anything. A more applicable question would be "what classes are you taking now"?[/quote]

This is nonsense. It's not rude to ask people about their thoughts and plans for the future. Small talk is not limited to topics only regarding what is happening now.

I was making small talk with a client at work while waiting for my boss and she asked me where I see my career heading and what kind of roles I would like to move into. Who cares? I didn't think it was invasive, but I also didn't really want to talk about it because it's kind of a loaded topic in my life right now. I answered vaguely and pivoted the conversation. No harm was done, she meant no ill intent. [/quote]

It is very rude to ask strangers personal questions. Do you ask your clients if they plan to have kids? Or if they are pregnant if they look a little heavier? You don't know these people. But, you're a lost cause so just keep doing you. [/quote]

DP. The fact that you equate asking a HS senior about their college application list with these questions shows how ridiculous your position is. [/quote]

Uh, your boss asking you your future plans is akin to the college advisor asking the student where they plan to apply. Not at all the same. A parent on a tour is just some dipshit nosy busybody.[/quote]

Maybe they are just a nosy busybody to some random teenager on a school tour, or maybe they're genuinely interested. Maybe they're super insecure about their own kid's prospects and want to know what kind of student goes to the school that they're touring. Who knows. An so what? Honestly, a 16 or 17 year old should be able to handle this type of question. If they don't want to answer it, they can come up with whatever answer or non-answer they are comfortable with.

All of you arguing about how insensitive and rude this question is are doing a huge disservice to these teenagers. Instead of helping your kid navigate these situations, you come on a message board to lecture about how adults shouldn't be asking the question in the first place.[/quote]

The kid seems to be navigating it just fine by deflecting to general information about the college office. The outrage is coming from people shocked to find out this is considered rude and invasive.[/quote]

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