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[quote=Anonymous]Some men, me included, have a short fuse when a big important topic is discussed and an irrational highly improbable hypotherical argument is dropped in like you did. He says he wants a son, perfectly reasonable, and you give an example of why that outcome (which is random and highly prossible) and is a perfectly wonderful thing, could go insanely wrong due to an extraordinarily improble and unlikely (but impossible to 100% disprove) event you are irrationally anxious about. Our software doesn't know how to respomd in any way that could in that moment get you to agree that having a son is just fine if it happens and we will, in all probability, live happy non-mass-shooter-son lives. Our algorithm just outputs a "throw up hands and go to room" command. My wife does this, where I discuss a decision about the future and if she doesn't quite like my preferencd for some.reason but really there is no rational reason why its a bad option, her quick mind hunts down reasons why its a bad option that are.so highly improbable or completely subjective, but can't easily be assuged (she is good at finding those and selecting them). I've tried to reprogram myself to have other outputs like "just say ok, I maybe that's possible" and not take stand or argue the point and escalate but it's hard. If I do argue the point, she often then feels I am personally attacking her, even if I'm being super careful to debate on merits and not turn it into an ad hominem argument. We both have spent many years working out this dynamic and even analyze our arguments together after we've both calmed down to figure this out and recognize when we've stumbled into this minefield, which can sometimes happen very abruptly even during small talk over a cup of morning coffee.[/quote]

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