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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My freshman is really struggling with sleep deprivation due to roommate issue. I’m definitely letting the college student come up with the plan and handle, but I’m curious about how things played out with other bad roommate situations.

(For context, they actually get along fine but the roommate is just needy, seems to be a combination hypochondriac/dramatic and will wake my daughter up to let her know her throat hurts, make herself herbal tea at three in the morning because she “feels a cold coming on”, wake daughter to ask her to help her walk to bathroom because she “sprained her ankle.” All of the ailments clear up before each weekend!) [/quote]

It's not up to your daughter to be a babysitter and nurse to her roommate. Empathy and compassion are very nice, but the roommate is abusing your daughter's kindness, which is unhealthy for her and your daughter. Catering to this student's dictates will only enable her and lead to her increasing her demands. I have a friend with Munchausen Syndrome who is supremely demanding. She has many good qualities but has burned through nearly all our mutual friends as she's so high maintenance. It would be in the roommate's best interest to learn about boundaries and respect for other people's needs earlier rather than later.

My DC also had a roommate problem in her first year. She was paired with another student who liked getting up after 7 a.m., as did my daughter. However, this roommate insisted that her alarm went off every 10 minutes from 5 a.m. until 7 a.m. She would turn it off and go back to sleep. My daughter couldn't get back to sleep and became increasingly sleep-deprived. After trying to sort this out with her roommate, my DC took the problem to the RA, who came down on her side. That temporarily fixed things, but the roommate retaliated by throwing out some of my kid's belongings and became quite hostile. My DC continued to consult with the RA, and both students were eventually moved to other dorms. This student continued to have major problems with roommates until she got a single.

My DC had a great relationship with her next freshman roommate. She also got along well with her sophomore roommate, although they had to negotiate how clean and tidy they wanted to keep their room (DC is neat and tidy; her roommate was kind of a slob:-)). They remain great friends, and they both learned something about compromise.

DC had a single for her last two years at college, which she truly appreciated:-)

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