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[quote=Anonymous]I get it. OP and her husband finally decided to stop attending something out of obligation that was unenjoyable to them and their kids for years. They are feeling the relief of freedom from this burdensome waste of time and resources, probably wondering why they didn’t do it sooner. My guess is the kids getting a little older and being able to express how bored and left out they feel tipped them over.

I also get the not wanting to be the servants at someone else’s party perspective. MIL is basically throwing an adult dinner party where her “guests” are served and hosted but OP and her husband aren’t in that category. They are expected to set up, deep clean before, serve, and clean up. Their kids are expected to stay quiet so their parents can work and the other adults can enjoy MIL’s dinner party. This really sucks.

This is NOT the same as an extended family Thanksgiving where everyone chips in and helps out. This is fun. This is also not the same as hosting in your own house where you choose to do it and choose the size/scale that you and your spouse can handle while still enjoying the holiday.

MIL probably looked shocked because she has to choose to either continue her adult party but hire help as her free servants won’t be there or to travel to OP and her husband’s house and let them host. [/quote]

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