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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think this thread has gone the way OP had intended. Most of the reasonable posters are showing support for instead of bashing the MIL [/quote]

Um, no. Plenty of people disagree with you. Myself included. [/quote]

So, the people disagreeing think that MIL isn't allowed to purchase things for her own home? Who would agree with that nonsense? A few crazies do not make a majority.[/quote]

There’s a difference between being “allowed” and it being a red flag. Of course she’s allowed. That doesn’t mean it’s not a warning sign of some hefty expectations depending—again— on the scale of what she’s doing.

Someone with an entire nursery in their home set up for my unborn child would set off every parenting instinct to keep the kid away from them. Someone on hand with a thing of wipes in the brand I use when my kid needs an urgent change is my favorite person on earth in that moment. [/quote]

Give me a break. For all we know this is the first of many grandchildren to come with OPs DHs other siblings. MIL isn't going to steal the baby in plain sight.[/quote]

No one said “steal the baby” except for you.

The risk here is the suggestion that MIL is building a fantasy of what the grandchild will be doing, and then OP is going to have to deal with her disappointment while she’s postpartum with a newborn and MIL is sulking that her brand new bassinet is empty.

Again unless we know the scale of what MIL is doing I don’t think we can say for sure, but if she’s completely duplicating the registry? OPs husband should have a word.[/quote]

There is no risk here. That's the point. Are you always this paranoid?  [b]MIL knows a heck of a lot more about babies and what they need than OP[/b]. OP isn't having these delusions. She just wants the gifts first. [/quote]

Then why is she using OPs registry?[/quote]

Because then she knows what brands she prefers since most people are very prickly about that and pretend they are scientists who deeply research the best baby gadget. MIL is wise enough to know just to go with what OP wants, and also, be prepared for when grandchildren visit. She knows how this goes, OP has no idea.[/quote]

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