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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, how often does DS see his siblings? GF or no GF, coming on this trip/or not, I hope DS is seeing his siblings once in awhile. That would be a huge reason to try to keep the tradition of a family trip going. For me, I generously finance visits of siblings spending time together. It's across country and quite expensive for them as young adults.[/quote]

sure fine - but at some point you have to realize that mommy’s dream of her kids “spending time together” doesn’t take precedence over her childrens’ adult lives. [/quote]

Sincerely, what makes you think that planning a trip and extending an invite to enable time with parents and siblings amounts to expecting that to take precedence over the child’s adult lives?[/quote]

Adults generally spend their vacation time & money on themselves. A long family trip would be an exception. [/quote]

That doesn't really answer the question.  Why does the invite itself make you think that the parent offering is somehow expecting their desire to "take precedence"?  In other words, why do you think that somebody who cares about the family enough to want this trip is also necessarily somehow not understanding that their child is an adult and may not want to or be able to do exactly what is offered when it is offered?

It would be unusual for my parents to offer to take me and my kids, along with my siblings's family, on a two week safari beach vacation in Africa.  I would receive that as an awesome opportunity and see if I could make the timing work.  I would not receive that as my parents imposing or putting their wishes above my own.[/quote]

right - that would be unusual and likely vetted well in advance by your parents, knowing that the adult kids’ vacation time and grandkids’ school schedules take precedence even if grant parents are paying. this is a very different vibe than I get from OP who seems to think that she gets to have her adult child solo on every family vacation. [/quote]

This is one of the two or three posts where OP says it was "vetted well in advance":

"I think a lot of people are projecting here about their own relationships with in laws! [b]Son was absolutely consulted, before GF entered the picture at all (long planned trip) and has been super excited about it.[/b] We haven't bought the tickets yet and were trying to figure out how to talk to him about it (consulting him) since he's likely assuming she will go and we will pay without even a discussion. Man you people are mean and assume the worst. Life is hard and we're all just trying to figure stuff out."

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