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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unpopular opinion:  This is OP's first time in this situation.  It will set a precedence for her other kids as well.  "How come you paid for Dave's gf and not mine?"  Soon OP will be footing the bill for multiple GFs/BFs and there's no way she can say "I'll pay for yours but not yours..."

I think they should have a convo with DS and say they're planning to buy his ticket. If you want GF to come, here are the flight numbers to book her own.  No one is entitled to their BF's parents' generosity. [/quote]

This isn’t a bad take. But if OP can’t afford to take partners on family trips, she can’t expect a command performance from the kids. [/quote]

It kind of is a bad take though.
Would their offer be different if the DS were married to her? If they would cover it for DS and his wife, then they should cover it for DS and his live-in girlfriend. (And I do agree that they need to have a consistent standard. It seems reasonable that the standard is, for adult children over 21, "we will pay for you and your significant other to join us, if you would like." The adult children should be the ones to determine whether the significant other is "significant" enough in their lives to include in the scenario, not the parents.[/quote]

PP here.  Yes they should pay for a married spouse or long-term partner.  The planning for this trip predates the present GF (and their may have been an entirely different GF in the picture when the planning even started, since he's a serial monogamist).  So I don't necessarily think they need to pay for this particular GF. [/quote]

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