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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the ADHD poster and have been reflecting on the comments and realize I was projecting my situation onto many posters.

In my specific case, which is too complicated to summarise, I had to reject the help I was receiving in order to step up and take responsibility. My spouse only wanted to take things from me to make my life easier, but it just enables and stressed me out. Then he’d criticise me for clutter and other things. Nothing I did was good enough and the more i tries to explain myself, the more resentful he got. Like he just wanted me gone.

It actually made me worse mentally, but now that we are split and there are clear lanes for coparenting, I feel less stressed and overwhelmed and able to manage the increase in responsibilities.

I am not bitter, I don’t blame. This is just the reality I am dealing with. I have found help and support from other friends and professionals. But not from my ex-spouse or parents. [/quote]

Thanks.
I can see how the more simple and very structured nature of your new setup is easier for an ADHD or ASD person.

You can be your best self during your 50%, and decompress and do your own thing when not with the kids or family house and obligations. The other parent can continue run the kids schedules and appointments. You just get the task list and times. [/quote]

I’m the one managing the appointments and schedules! I always have been.

It’s more the dynamic with exDH that’s toxic and we need the clear boundaries to operate peacefully. [/quote]

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