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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The bad manners part to me is demanding that guests give a gift in a particular way. I think it is fine to indicate your preference through a registry, fund link etc.. but to cross over into a requirement v.s suggestion is what I think is bad manners.  Same for people who demand a gift card for birthdays etc..

At my wedding i had to carry a purse for cash gifts that were handed to me and my mom had a decorated antique  bird cage for envelopes with checks  and we also had a registry - this was back in the late '90s but there was no note to guests anywhere that they had to give at all or in any format[/quote]

This is every bit as tacky as asking outright for cash.  Your "satin cash purse and birdcage" screamed " give me cash."[/quote]

I also had the birdcage at my New York wedding in 1999.  Cash was the typical wedding gift in our family circles -- half Jewish, half Catholic (not Italian though).[/quote]

This is a common practice in the NE.  It’s considered incredibly tacky and cringeworthy in other parts of the country.  In wealthy circles it’s still considered bad manners to have a family member throw the bride a shower.  I think that’s now standard in the NE.  [/quote]

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