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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a SIL like this too.

Refuses to work, has a full time nanny 10 hours a day plus a different nanny on weekends. Plus a summer nanny plus babysitters to go out at night. She can’t be alone with the kids.

My parents *hate* her. Like, don’t even get them started on her because it puts them in such a bad mood. My brother “tolerates” her. They still do “date night” and go out to socialize but I know he sleeps in the guest bedroom and has talked to my parents about leaving her. Sometimes I feel like I should take her aside woman-to-woman to let her know what her husband and in laws are saying behind her back. He wants to divorce but doesn’t want to lose 50% custody of his kids. But I know that as soon as he meets a new (probably younger) woman who is into him and his $$$, SIL is out the door. She should probably start dusting off her resume because she is going to need it.[/quote]

NP.  And someone who understands divorce.

Your brothers are all screwed in a divorce (but they deserve to be).  Dust off her resume?  Sorry, she sacrificed her prime earning years to birth children.  She’s getting a ton of alimony plus child support to maintain the lifestyle the kids are used to.  Including live in help.

And who doesn’t dream of 50/50 custody so men like these who overestimate their own contributions have to actually be full time parents half the time without things set up for them?  Just wait till they have to figure out the schedule for one summer.  Or when the live in help has a family emergency and needs to head out for a few weeks.  Or quits.

The next hot young thing is also going to want more kids, haha.

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This isn’t the way divorce works these days. Alimony is much shorter lived than it used to be. Child support is serious, but if she attempts to have full time care including nights and weekends, she may lose custody entirely. [/quote]

Not at this level of wealth.  [/quote]

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