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[quote=Anonymous]All of the little bits of these posts that people are picking over seem easily to me the sort of thing I would expect a birth mother to say who has buried "THAT", as some one else quoted OP, as deeply as OP is.  Haven't you ever heard anyone rationalize something they still felt bad about before?  She had a good life in a nice family (so it wasn't so bad, what I did).  Since she had a nice family she can't feel that bad about me (and what I did).

I have not posted before, and in fact I have read this post as an education.  I'm not adopted.  I have all of the children I conceived.  Some of my husband's cousins are adopted, and I haven't discussed topics like this with them, and I never thought about it from the BM perspective before.

But it is pretty plain to me that OP is a mother.  I recognize in her posts those feelings we all put upon ourselves with the first drop of pregnancy hormones.  To me, she isn't callous.  She is rationalizing guilt.  When her daughter tried to contact her before, it upset the applecart and I am sure she wanted just to close the door firmly again.  I think it isn't so easy to deal with feelings like that straight away.  Many of us, I'm sure, have things we have avoided dealing with our entire lives.

I would like to thank the adoptees and the birth mothers and adoptive mothers (and even PenguinSix) for the very interesting and smart posts here, and I too hope OP has taken the good and thoughtful posts here and ignored the bad.[/quote]

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