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Yes! If he can’t even play along on a holiday that doesn’t require much effort (no religious services, no elaborate meal expectations, no office obligations), then how can I count on him to show even a minimum of effort or enthusiasm for interacting with me as a human being on the harder, regular days?[/quote]

You obviously have no idea how much effort it takes for an introvert to make small talk with strangers. We hate it. It's exhausting.

But interacting with you sounds exhausting too, tbh.
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God, you whiny “OMG iM aN iNtRoVErT” people are so ridiculous. You really don’t need to go home and collapse dramatically on your fainting couch every time you make polite conversation with other adults. [/quote]

While that is certainly dramatized, but not altogether unexpected coming from an extrovert who likely needs to be the focus of everyone's attention....the main thing you should realize is that introverts find large/loud/non-intimate social settings draining versus extroverts who find large/loud/non-intimate social settings invigorating. There are also people who are both or situational.

I am so happy many of my friends have moved on from having large house parties and/or free-for-alls from our 20s and now we do couple stuff/single-gender dinner nights/4-6 family get togethers. About 20 people is my max for a large gathering. And if there is loud music playing while people are trying to have conversations, forget it. I cant mentally focus and it can be extremely overwhelming and I literally will have to go home and have no lights/dark room for a few hours or go to bed earlier. It isnt actually the interacting so much as the sensory overload, but they are related. I love going to concerts and listening TO music or dancing. I hate loud movie theatres and usually need to stuff my ears to dampen the sounds. I volunteer at pool events for setting up and take tennis lessons and play pickleball and interact with neighbors and go to birthday parties and initiate play dates but the pool on the 4th of July is literally the worst day to go to a pool for someone who isnt a true extrovert and/or in the mindset to do so.

Sometimes showing up is showing that you care. But if every event requires 100% engagement and participation that isnt realistic. [/quote]

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