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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, IDK whether this will resonate, but in both of the situations you have described here the scenario has not just been that you want a peak experience made even peak-ier—it is that you are unhappy specifically because you think other people who are present are getting something better or faster than you are.

If that is in fact a common thread, worth noticing that they are distinct situations and modifying the latter involves some different work than modifying the former.[/quote]

You're right, this is exactly it. It's really hard for me to get over perceived injustice. Like, if no one gets a view because it's foggy, whatever, it's bad luck. But to watch other people getting what I want and can't get is really hard for me.

Another post said I'm like a victim of Instagram, and it's true. I have really tried to step away from watching other people's perfect lives on social media, but you can't really get away from seeing them in real life.

(Side note, the table in front of us was this sugar daddy in his late 60s and his sugar baby, so to see my partial view, I had to also watch some nasty goings-on between them, and it was just objectively unpleasant).[/quote]

Um...there is no difference between the perfect life on insta and the perfect life that you think you see in person.  I've been the person sitting at the full view table on a romantic night with DH.  So maybe you think "wow I'm so mad that she gets that and I don't.  Why does her life get to be perfect and mine not?"  What do you don't see is my 20 year long battle with an eating disorder and the fact that I'm struggling while out to dinner because I feel guilty about the food and then feel guilty that I can't fully enjoy this because my mind is focused on the food and calories.  You need to get over this notion that there is some great injustice done to you.  Please get some therapy to learn to deal with this.  Your life and your entire family's life will be better. [/quote]

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