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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymouse]Tell him. He deserves agency in the marriage. [/quote]

That is ridiculous. She would be blowing up her life: if the affair is never discovered, everyone is better off. Honestly, telling only hurts people. If it is over, never do it again and don’t tell if you want to stay married.

I would not want to know.

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I think the more important question isn't whether or not you'd want to know, but rather when would you want to find out and from whom? [/quote]

Most affairs are not discovered. Would rather not know. If I had to find out, I would not care who told me. If I had to choose when…when my children are in college. Knowing does not do anyone any good if marriage is good otherwise. [/quote]

Living a lie is not good for anyone and there's a health risk too.  Don't be a coward.  OP needs to own it and take the consequences.  Her DH is at high risk of finding out based on what is going on.[/quote]

Exactly. Affairs that go undiscovered don't usually have a BW on the other side who knows and has already threatened to tell the husband. If the BW didn't know, it would be an entirely different calculation. But in this case, the odds are pretty high her husband will find out either way. If she chooses to tell him, she stands a greater chance of salvaging the marriage.[/quote]

Disagree. If the wife was going to reveal it, she would have. She wants both marriages to stay intact. She is not going to say a word.

Do not blow up your life for something that is over.[/quote]

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