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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, the only problem here is that they posted on social media and OP saw it. If OP hadn't seen it or if they hadn't posted, then there wouldn't be an issue. The way around getting so easily offended is to get yourself off social media. This sort of thing will continue to happen and you need to start getting over it. I was definitely upset when I discovered my daughter's preschool bestie's family was good friends with two other preschool families and they got together all the time and never invited us, but then I realized that it's not about me, and my daughter didn't know or care. I got over it. I have my own friends.[/quote]

Agree the biggest problem here is that OP found out about how these women got together with their daughters. This is a major reason I just never bother to add most school people to my social media. I don't want or need to know. My own social media is extremely locked down (or in the case of public accounts like Twitter or LInkedIn, I'm not posting about family/social stuff there) and I can't see myself posting an outing like that online -- the people who are interested in it are there. Occasionally I'll meet a parent through the school and will follow their professional account (like a mom I met who's a photographer, I follow her business account and have recommended her to people) but if they have private accounts, I'm not aware of it, and I don't connect with them that way.

School-based friendships are too ephemeral for stuff like that. People move, kids' friend groups change, dynamics shift as they get older. You have to learn that even if your DC makes a "best friend" in preschool or K or 1st or 2nd, the odds that you will now be lifelong BFFs with that family are extremely slim. Maybe after a few years if the kids stick together and you slowly develop affinity with the family. But take it slow and don't jump the gun, because it's much more likely that next year they'll be in different classes and you'll barely interact with these people.[/quote]

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