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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]To everyone saying that OP is entitled, bossy, demanding, spoiled, etc., remember that OP’s dh asked her what she wanted for Mother’s Day, so she was honest and told him. He agreed to it.[/b] Initially, he declined other plans for the weekend. However, his entitled, bossy, demanding, spoiled father just wouldn’t let it go and kept upping the ante, including using grandma’s eventual death as emotional blackmail. I’m guessing that OP’s FIL has been so tenacious because he’s trying to give his mother and his wife what THEY want for Mother’s Day.

There’s nothing wrong with OP being disappointed that her DH reneged on their plans. She’s done several consecutive weekend cleanings by herself. There’s nothing wrong with wanting her dh to take a turn. She didn’t ask for anything unreasonable. If her dh felt that what she asked for wasn’t something he could provide, he should have told her that from the beginning. After he agreed to OP’s request, he should have honored it. He’s in a situation where he’s going to disappoint someone. It’s perfectly okay for OP to be sad that he chose her to be the disappointed one, even though he specifically asked her what she wanted in advance and agreed to it.[/quote]

She asked, and I quote:

I asked to: not have to clean, cook, and to spend time at home with family with a homecooked meal for dinner and go out for breakfast on Sunday for one weekend.

She is NOT cleaning or cooking and she is spending time with her family on Mother's Day. What am I missing? She is getting what she asked for, and her husband is then spending the previous day with his family (which OP could join). Why should OP get an entire weekend?[/quote]

Guessing you are a boomer who thinks cleaning is womens work. The OP has spent the past Saturdays doing all the cleaning herself so DH can go fishing. Her ask was for him to do it this one weekend on Sat so they could all have a nice Mother’s Day together.

But hey it’s time for THE GRANNY SHOW. Holy cow, there can’t be a weekend where her son and grandson spend time appreciating the DIL. Good grief what about GRANNy? She’s the center of the universe! Cut to scene with granny getting grampy to fix this debacle! Grampy isn’t being successful bullying his son into understanding that granny comes first damn it. Granny decides to call in the big guns and force her mom great granny to schlep down. This works! Yeah, DIL has been shown that she is always second to GRANNY. Happy GRANNY. [/quote]

I'm a Gen X woman, actually. And in the beginning of COVID when our cleaners didn't come it was my husband who did most of the cleaning (almost of the childcare/homeschooling) because my job was busier. But ok.

I think OP is ridiculous and her obsession with doing a deep clean on her house every weekend is silly. She sounds like someone who is unhappy no matter what. [/quote]

Working all week and all day Saturday spent on deep clean - this seems like a deeply depressing way to live.[/quote]

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