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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmm. I am bothered by this a little.

If you, a specific woman, have done the unmedicated path and it worked out well for you, power to you. I'm not gonna argue with you about your experience, different strokes for different folks. I'm happy you're happy.

My cringe is about this being one of a series of steps where society, and women themselves, set the bar incredibly high for mothers. Let's be honest - if men gave birth, they'd all get epidurals. Why on earth would they put themselves through such misery? For some absolutely minisule decrease in risk for the baby? Come on.

Yet women are so, so willing, eager even, to put themselves through the ringer for their kids in a way that's not proportional to the gains for their kids, and I don't think it's healthy. I think a lot of the women who are pregnant and committed to a natural birth are putting a lot of pressure on themselves, and are setting themselves us to feel like the failed in their first trial of motherhood. Take a look at the abstract of this paper: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6386786/. That makes me so, so sad.

And it continues. Women with basically zero milk supply who see a lactation consultant multiple times a week for months, triple feed around the clock, endlessly researching and trying supplements, and doing everything humanly possible to give their kid breastmilk while completely exhausting themselves. I understand wanting to breastfeed (I did - successfully once, semi-successfully the second time) but these heroic efforts are over the top.

Women who give their babies and young toddlers open cups and clean up 30 spills a day because it's 0.1% better for your kid than a 360 degree cup, or even (gasp) an old fashioned sippy cup. Women who read every parenting book on the planet in an effort to do everything perfectly for their kids. Women who run themselves ragged to take three kids to two different travel sports teams each, plus Russian math, plus chess club, plus an instrument each, to give their kids every possible leg up, never mind that she has no time for a social life and hasn't had a full nights sleep in 8 years.

It's a pattern that I find troubling. [/quote]

Bravo[/quote]

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