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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hear about this on dcum but I’m not convinced it’s a thing. What does happen is when established friends have a group, it can be tough to break in. But that’s not associated with a school or activity and it’s more about logistics than anything personal. If you’re new, you need to be proactive and be sure to reciprocate invites and such. [/quote]

It is so a thing.
As a European expat living in Bethesda (now no longer) I was treated like a total outsider for the whole decade I lived in a house I owned. People would say crazy stuff like "are you going HOME this summer?" and I'd be like, er, no, this is my home.  Gatekeeping, just a variation. [/quote]

Is this a soriety kind of thing? I'm a foreigner too and have never been invited to a girls weekend or night out. I'm not part of their system, just someone with a weird accent.[/quote]

Sorority?  Yeah, I think so - it is that kind of vapid mentality. DP here. I would much [b]prefer to hang with people who haven't lived down the street from their parents their whole lives[/b], thank you.  I mena, if you want to be judgy. [/quote]

hee hee--this is so true in my community. they either bought near their parents or bought their parents house and now their parents live in the tony townhomes around the corner from them.  since I don't want to be part of their group, I find them overall harmless and just play nice when I'm around them, and I know a few one on one, and they're fine.  the gate is there because unless you either a) [b]went to high school with them[/b] b) [b]were in a sorority with a family member (cousin or sibling) of theirs[/b] or c) [b]have some other mutual connection that gets you into the group, you're really not wanted.[/b] [/quote]

So true - God forbid you are first generation or renting, or not one of the three categories, because then you are some sort of leper, apparently........

The people the gatekeeper doesn't pay attention to is the kind of person I do want to pay attention to - because they are so much more interesting than the gatekeeper and their ilk (who seem quite literally dirty to me). [/quote]

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