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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Use your voice and ask for help. Have you asked them?  They’re not mind readers. Pick up the phone and ask them.

If they turn you down/ say no then they suck. But if you’re waiting for anyone to just magically sweep in to help you’ll end up disappointed, which you are now.

My husband has to travel for very long stretches of time overseas for work. My parents rarely helped, even if I asked/begged. So I started asking friends, and many of them said yes.

So ask. Just ask them. [/quote]

We did. When DH just found out about his deployment being so long, he reached out to his parents. He asked for help. And they changed the subject and started talking to them about his sister. His sister who claims "oh I love my nephews", has not called them ONCE in their lifetime to wish them a Happy Birthday or a Merry Christma. Not ONCE. But hey, send me your postcards, make them cute and all.

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What help specifically did you ask for? 
If you are stressed and need help call your MIL and say omg I am stressed and need help. can you do xyz?  
Maybe they will help maybe not

My friend was in a similar situation and when her MIL did call one day she just vented like crazy and her MIL started throwing out suggestions and my friend ended up in tears and was even more mad. But something got through bc her FIL facetimed her one day out of the blue and said let me talk to the kids and he entertained them for a good hour over face time and even ended up reading them a story. He started doing it every week on the same day and time. Yeah it was a tiny little thing but the kids loved it and it gave her an hour of peace from the craziness. It was the best they could offer long distance. [/quote]

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