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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is very annoying and not very sensitive of them. I learned something recently, though, when I expect people to act how I would in a similar situation, I often end up disappointed. They may not understand/grasp how hard it is for you. I think it’s OK to tell them things have been hard, but keep that a separate issue from the pictures.

My retired father is always sending pictures from where he is on vacation. It drives my siblings crazy. I think he’s just trying to share his life with us. But the issue is he doesn’t come visit the grandchildren, so it’s a hard pill for them to swallow when he’s on another vacation and won’t even come see them. That being said they haven’t asked him to, and they’re assuming he’s choosing a Caribbean island over them. He’s trying to keep in touch by sending pictures of where he is, because he’s not a good communicator otherwise. There’s an issue  bc they’re not seeing it from the same perspective.  I think if one of us sat him down and told him how what we thought he would feel just terrible! I really think the majority of family issues are from a realistic, expectation and unclear communication.  [/quote]

I could see how someone would be hurt by uninvolved grandparents vacationing so often, but not bothering to see their grandchildren.  I get it, people are retired, some have earned it....but some are useless and only care about themselves. My sentiment is that if someone is an uninvolved, tone deaf grandparent who plays favorites (favoritism is sometimes part of the big picture, before someone jumps on me for mentioning it), they likely were not very good, but very tone deaf parents (who also played favorites). It can be frustrating, because it is natural to want a healthy, involved extended family - but some families simply can not offer that. [/quote]

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