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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here, and I have not read much of the thread. But as the parent of a kid in kindergarten, this is something I've thought a lot about.

I understand OP's request and why she would make it. If my child had a serious allergy, I'd of course worry about this too, and do whatever I could to protect my kid. That's what good parents do. I get it, I really do.

But here is the problem. I have a kid with ARFID who relies on nut butters and nuts to get enough protein. I expend a ton of energy worrying about my kid's diet. And what you are asking me to do is worry that some of the very few foods my kids will eat might leave a residue on her fingers that could be transferred to a piece of playground equipment and then harm your child.

I'm sorry, that's too much. It's too much! I have to worry about my own kid. Is the risk from a peanut residue actually that dangerous to your kid? If so, I think that like me, you need to take the responsibility for your child's unique situation on yourself -- wipe down equipment if you are concerned, have your kid wear gloves, even be ready to let other families at the playground know the situation so that they can make reasonable choices in the moment.

But to ask me to simply refrain from allowing my kid to eat one of a very small number of foods she will eat at the playground, especially when these foods are already not allowed at her school, is too much. I can't. I'd like to help you, but I can't. Just like you can't help me.

Good luck to you.[/quote]

NP. Of course you child should eat what she needs to eat.

And then, if you're on or going to a playground, you can wash or wipe down her hands.

There! Your child gets the nutrition she needs and does not spread substances that potentially can make someone else's child ill. But [b]nowhere in your otherwise supposedly reasonable post did you ever mention YOUR "taking the responsibility for your child's unique situation on YOURself" by wiping her hands[/b].

You do realize, PP, it is easier for a parent to wipe or wash ONE child's two little hands than for the OP to have to go all over a playground wiping down every rung on every ladder, every slide, every pole--? Oh, you cannot take a few moments to wipe your child's hands but OP should "wipe down equipment if you are concerned," as if that is an effort equivalent to your just wiping your kid's hands. I'm betting you'll come back to huff and puff and say of course you wash or wipe your kid's hands. Eh, if you do, why bother to post at length about how this is really all on OP, then?

There have been nasty knee-jerk name-calling posts on here by trollish little creeps. Yet somehow your rational, reasonable, "I've got a kid with seriousl issues too, it's so hard!"  post is even worse to me. [b]You do not possess the empathy you might think you do, PP[/b].  [/quote]

But here's the thing - at the end of the day, you want other people to have empathy for your kid with allergies. I sincerely hope, I do, that you also remember to have empathy for the struggles other parents are facing, and have some compassion and maybe even a helping hand for them. So many spoiled people, and it's all about me, me, me. My kid with allergies! Yeah well look around you and realize your self centered focus on your child's allergies is not the only problem in the world.[/quote]

Your kid throwing a fit because they demand a snack 24/7 isn’t an “issue you are facing”.  You are just a shitty larent.

A lot of you don’t seem to understand children DIE of food allergies.  They die.  They don’t come back.  [/quote]

I can't wrap my head around people rolling the dice by taking these kids to the park when we all know full well how awful and selfish everyone else is. Are they trying to prove some sick point by jeopardizing their kids' lives? You're going to have to explain the thought process and why a parent would do this. [/quote]

I can't wrap my head around people blithely raising their children to give zero consideration to sharing the world kindly with others by taking the most basic, simple steps, which aren't even real sacrifices, to keep strangers a little safer. Are those parents trying to prove some sick point by raising children who have no empathy and never think of NOT doing exactly as they please, when they please, where they please? [/quote]

The crime of eating almonds![/quote]

You choose to miss the point. The "crime" is not the almonds or the eating. The crime is children growing up never having learned to think about someone else but only about doing whatever they want in that moment.

But little trolly troll, I think you're the one posting repeatedly on this thread and probably will come back with another snappy little nothing to try to keep this all going. [/quote]

Not PP but I teach my children to think about others, as I also allow them to eat healthful snacks and meals at snack time and meal time. And sometimes it includes nuts, or dairy, or eggs, or (less commonly) shellfish. If someone speaks up and discloses a bad allergy to an item my child is eating of course I will put it away. But I am not going to assume that those around me have life threatening allergies to common foods unless they tell me they do. Just like I wouldn’t walk my dog past someone who has panic attacks around dogs, but, I’m going to walk my dog, and there will be people nearby sometimes and the onus is on them to tell me they can’t be around dogs so I can react appropriately. The onus isn’t on me to only walk my dog in abandoned alleyways. [/quote]

But the issue here is that you walking your dog past someone who is scared won't kill them. And walking your dog is an important part of the dog's health.

Here, we know that peanuts can be deadly to some kids (which is not always the case with other allergens - dairy, eggs, eg). That is the a million times worse than whatever could happen if you walked your dog past a scared person. And to avoid death, you just have to avoid the peanuts. That is SO EASY to do. I don't understand why PPs protest this so much. I do this every day - literally EVERY day with my kids. We don't take nut products to school, soccer practice, or kids events. If we have kids over, I ask parents about potential allergies. It doesn't bother me one bit to do this.

It's mind blowing how triggering it is to some people to ask them to be cognizant of where they take nut products. That was literally it. Crazy world we live in. [/quote]

What you're not understanding, because you're incredibly thick, is that everyone is not going to get this message or comply. No matter how much you think they should. Then what are you going to do?[/quote]

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