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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's interesting that a lot of the advice is contradictory: "date lots of different people" and "sleep with the hot guy", vs. "only date for marriage" and marry the good guy while you're young.[/quote]

I think it depends how much you want to get married.  For some women it's their main goal in life; others can take it or leave it, especially now that women have more economic opportunities and single motherhood is not so stigmatized.  [/quote]

+1, also some of us were ambivalent about both marriage and kids because of negative childhood experiences that made us question whether that was a good deal. I wound up married and a mom but at 24 I would have told you I wasn't sure about either. It was way more important for my well being to go to therapy and just work on myself and find my own way in life, and recover from a $hitty childhood, than to lock down a guy at 25. I can't think of anyone I dated in my 20s who I wish I'd married, but even if I'd met a great guy at that age, I was not prepared for that commitment and had to do some maturing and evolving before I did.

Prioritizing marriage in your 20s is totally fine advice if you are already in a health mental space AND if marriage is the right thing for you specifically. The idea that these are universal states is silly -- it should be self evident from just a little observation that people are different and need/want different things.[/quote]

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