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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Rather than doing the respectable thing and properly ending your marriage first?  Obviously it’s driven by selfishness: not wanting to lose access to your kids, having to give up some money, and no longer being able to carry on the “family man/woman” image.  If your AP is single you’re likely giving them false hope, and if they’re also married you’re both scumbags.

How do you live with yourself? [/quote]

I feel like the respectable thing is to stay in if there are kids. Marriage is for protection of kids. It's not just a romantic relationship anymore after there are kids. Not wanting to lose access to your kids is totally right. Not wanting to lose money that benefits your kids is totally right. ...

So I am sorry isf you were wronged, but your kids are more important in this scenario.

Sure, affairs are wrong, but also apparently run-of-the-mill for people who can't afford the consequences, and don't have enough emotional maturity to get it together, for the kids. You made a choice in marriage. The kids didn't make any choices, they are just stuck with you and your choices. His/her choice to cheat. His/her choice to be bitter. His/her choice to work too much, be distant, be wrapped up in relationship drama, or drunk, or just generally emotionall unavailable. IDGAF if your DH cheated on you. Do better by your kids. They are the main characters, not you.[/quote]

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