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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her.  Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids![/quote]

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works. [/quote]

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.[/quote]

Thank you for your kind reply!  Unfortunately, she already withdrew before she texted me this morning.  She went into the first round with a completely open mind.  She didn't look into rankings or anything because she didn't want to be influenced by that.  She felt like it went well and had a good connection with about half of the houses.  None of those invited her back for philanthropy day.  (I'm not sure how many, if any, invited her back.). She wasn't 100% in on rushing and that might have come through during the interviews.  Or maybe the houses she liked just didn't like her.  I think she may reach out to some of the houses (not going to bother with the top tier) and see what happens.  If that doesn't work out, she may see if her friends end up someplace they like and try to get a bid next year.  From what little I know, it seems to help to know someone who can vouch for you.  [/quote]

I am sorry to hear this, but I do understand her disappointment. As I said my DD was there last year. She really debated all day whether she should drop and she sat and talked with her friends and some of them decided to keep going, others didn't. I am 100% sure she was not dropped from all houses, that is not how it works at UVA.  Its completely fair that if she didn't like the girls at the houses she had left, I get it, [b]but I wished she'd given them at least one more chance.[/b] Best of luck to her and her friends![/quote]

I completely agree!  She might have clicked with other girls in the house.  Oh well, I'm sure it's good for our kids to experience disappointment sometimes (even if it's tough for their parents to see them sad).[/quote]

She can certainly do COB, just know it's a very haphazard process that she will have to stay on top of. [/quote]

What is COB?[/quote]

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