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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, are you single because you always find a ridiculous way to sabotage your relationships?  Because that looks like what is happening here. [/quote]

I was in a very long marriage for most of my adult life. Men in middle age behave very differently from what I observed 20 years ago. I am not going to be intimate with strangers, won’t pursue a man if he does reciprocate, or wait for 24 hrs for him to respond. Before he does, I will already have different plans. I am busy and have other interests. If my Saturday-Sunday date is not confirmed by Friday EOB, I make other plans. [/quote]

The men you dated 20+ years ago had social media?[/quote]

They were very active pursuing further dates, inviting me to hand out with their friends, shared business cards and /or where they studied. And yes some had online presence there was a website prior to LinkedIn I forgot how it was called [/quote]

So this guy isn’t for you because he’s not pursuing you to the degree you prefer. This has nothing to do with him not having a linked in profile. [/quote]

Him using a burner phone, somewhat unclear identity, super slow to texts does tell me he just wanted a dinner date for “variety”. Not really interested. So I don’t think it’s a match. Yes you are right [/quote]

When did this “burner phone” thing happen?  How on earth could you know after one date that someone is using burner phone?

I’m starting to vote nutcase with the other PPs. [/quote]

OP here - I worked in hospitality industry and know how to check if someone uses their actual or a burner number. He used the burner 100% [/quote]

Did he use a google voice number? I'm a guy and I use that for OLD until I decide she's worthy of knowing my actual cell number.[/quote]

I use my google voice number too because I don't want strangers to be able to easily find where I live and such. I am a woman. I had one man get mad about it when I was about to give him my real number and accuse me of cheating on someone and lying and boy was I ever glad he didn't have my real number. [/quote]

OP here; I was thinking about using my burner number for everyone until I see someone for couple months at least and we are exclusive. But I realized "assortative mating" does exit. Men who are more established want to share their success, transparency and know they actually are matched with someone similar. Men I meet are 2 Linkedin connections max away. This matters especially for middle aged divorced men, they want to know early if woman works and where, or if she lives off CS and alimony. I live in a very expensive neighborhood [/quote]

To add, most smart men who used burners know how to check if I used burner or if I hide information. They asked me directly after 2nd date, so I stopped using it for people I've spoken several times and went out for dinner.[/quote]

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