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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At 14, you're not "claiming" anyone as your boyfriend or girlfriend, IMO.

The closest timing I would allow is 16-18, but even then, I'd dissuade it because I've seen so many teens get wrapped up in these high school romances that are full of drama and derail them.

I think crushes and the like are healthy and fine, and I don't see anything wrong with having friends of the opposite sex or hanging out with them. But there isn't really "serious dating" to be had in the high school years, IMO.[/quote]

You may not be, but they are very interested in “claiming” a bf/gf in high school.

It can be very positive. It is not just about having sex - they are looking for deep connections outside of their family at this age. That includes friendships & relationships.

I am not advocating letting them date one on one, have sex, etc. But jeez, there is a lot of excitement about being asked to a school dance, etc. There’s a lot to learn about what you like in a partner, how to set boundaries, etc. They are not just robots who need to study / work all the time. Figuring out how to navigate social relationships is a big part of teenage years - how to say no when someone likes you when you don’t feel the same, etc. [/quote]

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