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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you say you are a people pleaser. Consider this. There is something about this role you like. You experience drama with your family. You know this. You must accept some responsibility - somehow you get something out of this. You are willing to keep the drama spinning. Break the pattern. Accept that: people may not like you. you might make someone mad.

You aren't a better person for being a people pleaser. You are just less evolved.[/quote]

Op here. I actually get nothing out of the drama. I’m not sure I can accurately articulate how much it exhausts me mentally and physically as it’s an ongoing issue (just this particular issue on her part is new). I’ve been in a lot of therapy for the last couple of years to try to change my mindset, not be such a people pleaser and be ok with being disliked/making someone mad. I’ve made huge strides, but I’m not always perfect in how I handle situations like this. Believe me that I’ve put in (and continue to put in) the work. But there’s something about this crazy critical situations that sometimes make me default to old habits. Maybe I’m not as evolved as you, but I’m certainly trying to evolve, but it’s a process to undo decades of habits.[/quote]

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