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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, Everyone has given practical suggestions for how to handle but I’m wondering if it’s really the feeling of being shut out and ignored that’s bothersome, or if it’s just annoying to be hearing a language you don’t understand and can’t participate in. Technically I am ESL and I remember being surprised to hear a friend back in college express how irritating it was to hear other students having long conversations in their mother tongue (which was also mine). And if I were to be honest there are some languages that are hard to listen to for a long time - they are harsh or barking, high pitched or too sing-song.  Maybe process why you are bothered so much by it. There must be English speaking teens like yours at these gatherings after all these years, aren’t there?  Whatever you do, you want to show respect for your spouse’s and IL’s culture. Tuning people out with AirPods is not respectful.

So I agree with others that you (and teen) can’t sit there and wear your airpods. Why not use this time to interact with your teen? If you must watch a movie then watch one together without AirPods. Or play a game. Maybe others will join in. Or go to another room for a break. Or leave for a walk and return if it’s really an all day affair. Is it a useful language? I would even consider learning a bit and practicing. There are many ways to handle this without conveying “I really don’t want to be here and listen to you people”.

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