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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do all kinds of things for my in laws: getting them gifts, printing photos of the kids for them, arranging visits, having the kids make them cards, call them etc.  But I do it because I really love my in laws and they have been wonderful to me. I’m very grateful to have them so I genuinely want to do nice things for them. That and the fact that my husband doesn’t do much of the above if I didn’t so we wouldn’t see or talk to them as often and our kids wouldn’t have as close s relationship w them—which is something that is very important to all of us. My husband is an equal partner in so many ways—dishes, laundry, childcare, etc—and he really loves his parents and has a great relationship w them but for whatever reason he’s just not good at planning and organizing our social life and family relationships at all (he really is fully present and great when we’re w them but he’s not good at planning the visit, he wants them to get gifts and cards from us/our kids but he can never think of what to get or doesn’t think of it til last minute so it’ll be late if I leave it to him) so I do it all including when it comes to his family.[/quote]

The “whatever reason” that he’s not good at planning and organizing is because *he was modeled and taught that family dynamics and socializing are women’s work,” and you are now helping him model that for your children. Congrats on continuing this dynamic into the 2050s and beyond.[/quote]

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