Reply to If your significant other is a partner at a big law firm, what time does he/she get home usually?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "If your significant other is a partner at a big law firm, what time does he/she get home usually?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BTW, have any men in your firm asked you if you're looking forward to your three month vacation? Or "it must be nice to get a 12 week paid vacation."  So funny. . . .  My second favorite is when you were up all night with a sick child, raced into work early and ran around crazy to get home to get sick child to doc and someone (usually young male who arrived at work by 11 and then took 1.5 hours for lunch and workout) spots you leaving (at 4 or so) and has to say "Cutting out early for the day?"  Fun times, really.  [/quote]

Absolutely!  Or, arrive to work early and ditch the typically non-optional 2 hour group lunch/gossip session in order to leave early for a soccer game and get an eye roll and "must be nice!!!" on the way out the door.  I saw a version of that happen to many female associates.  Meanwhile, the men who dashed off to attend each and every one of their wife's prenatal appointment got a "what a stand-up guy" comment from more senior partners.

I don't know why I keep reading these posts because people are so judgmental and mean.  I was the last one of my associate class to leave my BigLaw firm.  It wasn't that we weren't prepared to work hard under intense pressure or that we weren't excited about the prospect of earning a lot of money.  We just all came to the conclusion that the lifestyle of the BigLaw firm, in terms of face time, constantly being judged (personally) and the total lack of autonomy from associate through partner level would not work for us for various reasons.  There are days when I miss the extra cash flow and the excitement of working on cutting edge issues, but I've made my choice and I don't regret it at all.  I justify my decision not because my kids will love me better because I am home, but because I stood up for my personal values and am happy and grateful every day that I had chose to do it so I'm proud that my kids have me as a role model for whatever profession they chose (even law!).  I am sure that there are many attorneys who have made peace with their firm politics and the demands of their lifestyle so can't we all just be happy for them as well?  The only people that any of us should "feel sorry for" are those who truly feel trapped in their circumstances, for whatever reason.  To the OP, I say if you are struggling, tell your husband and ask him to interview at some other firms.  From these posts, it seems that there is a range of both partner hourly demands as well as salaries.  It obviously depends on his area of law, but it's never too late to make a change that will make his family happier.   [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics