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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In reference to the other thread where it was concluded that the good guys with the potential to make good money are always paired up very early in life- in college or before. This makes me feel major FOMO because in high school and college, I had 0 idea what a “marriage material” guy was and how to identify them. But I had a roomate, I recall, who had been dating her engineer bf since hs. They were monogamous throughout college and he went to an Ivy League across the country. They already had it all mapped out. What jobs they were going to do; how many kids they would have.

How did she know so early what’s a good guy? And how to keep him?

I was so clueless and only now in my thirties am remembering the things she said about marriage and husbands.

Who teaches these girls? How they know? What do they know? [/quote]

Funny that I was just having a similar discussion with my high school son the other day about this topic.  [b]He was telling me most of the girls he knows seem to be attracted to jerky guys who don't treat them that well.[/b]  My DS isn't a saint, and definitely isn't a doormat.  Enjoys music, playing tennis and cross country, and can be a bit "cerebral" when it comes to philosophical discussions.  He also isn't big on social media and prefer to talk to people rather than hang on the phone all day.  I think girls think he's an odd ball for not having an instagram account or not being on snapchat.  He does not even swear.  For me, he's a great guy -- funny, athletic, enjoys cooking and probably on the nerdy side when it comes to academics.  Yet, it seems like girls only see him as friends and nothing outside of that at this point.  I tried to explain to him that he's growing into a great human being, but that sometimes girls don't appreciate people like him until they are older.  He tells me that I'm his mom and that I'm supposed to say nice things to boost his confidence.

[b]I think women can be kinda dumb.  We chase the bad boys and then wonder why they treat us so poorly.[/b][/quote]\

This is a very interesting juxtaposition IMO.  Nothing written above indicates that DS would treat women well.  For the record, I'm not saying that as an insult or anything against him; you only listed a few of his hobbies that are more prone to being done alone, that he's not into social media, and that girls his age aren't meeting him where he's at, but none of that correlates to treating women either well or badly.[/quote]

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