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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Widowed man and I'm looking for her now.  Have been on about 15 dates.  Didn't want any second dates so far.  It's a lot of effort.

Fit, financially secure, likes to stay in and let me cook us a meal then watch a movie as much as dress up and go out dancing, or maybe a hike in the woods.  No ex baggage at all-none.  Grown kids who don't live with her.  Not allergic to cats.  Adventurous and expects the same in me.  Willing to try new things.  Bonus if she has a nice a$$.[/quote]

Let me guess. You’re 60 and she should be under 45.[/quote]You're close.  You say that like it's a bad thing.[/quote]

It’s uneven. Men die earlier typically. People like this don’t want to be known for their money but what else are they actually bringing to the table [/quote]

Exactly. So let’s see: second marriage, maybe they don’t combine finances because if existing kids. She gets what, ten years if companionship before he’s an old man and then she’s still active while he needs caretaking. Then he dies and she is not only alone with no one to take care of her, but also no money to replace someone taking care of her because it all goes to his kids.[/quote]

I am mid 40s female in 99th percentile net worth for my age group (over $4mm  NW), $300k income, own house and several paid off rentals. I am fit, tall, attractive and have one child who starts college in the fall.
I have zero interest dating a 60 yo with his early retiree lifestyle. I plan to work at least 15 more years, and if I date it would be only someone my age or younger with a professional job. I want to build a new family nest (eg new joint house, mixed joint/separate finances, some rights of survivorship etc) to have a real partner later in life. I also still want a second child preferably not on my own but with my future second husband. Either through adoption or fertility technology. 
Not sure what women with money would get from 60 yo retiree who will need caregiver in 10-15 years and has zero to offer. If I was looking for sex, I still would only date 40 something men. If I was looking for money, I would only date a private jet type for luxury dating experiences. But I don’t need that. Family is everything to me: I was very happy during my first 10 years of marriage and super unhappy in the last 5. I still believe in happy family [/quote]

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