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DH 61 here.  Most heterosexual marriages would be materially better if each partner tried harder to discover and meet the others' unmet needs.  That can start with simply asking your partner what needs they have that they wish were being fulfilled better by you, and then listen carefully.

It is perhaps a stereotype, but for men, those unmet needs are often in the bedroom.  A DW who wants to reanimate  her marriage thus can sometimes do so pretty easily by focusing on that and showing more interest, enthusiasm, and open-mindedness.  Variety helps.  You can create variety with the same person but it takes imagination and work.

Many DH have completely abandoned any romantic efforts towards their wives.  So this is an area, along with helping around the house and with other life chores, where many DH can make improvements quickly.

Someone once said that romance to many wives is like a BJ yo many DHs. Crass, but there is an element of truth to this,

I’m a happily married DW. I’m 49 so unfortunately I’ve gone through menopause and the sensation down there has almost vanished. I also have a SN kid. This year both of my parents were diagnosed with terminal illnesses. And I’m POA for them both. It is all completely draining. But one thing or another has been dragging me down for years. I wonder if the best days of my life are gone. I’m afraid after my parents die, I’ll get diagnosed with something or another crisis will happen. I find I barely think or dream about sex anymore. I still find my husband incredibly attractive. I wish there was female viagra.

Anyhow, I’ve explained to him that sex has changed for me and we have worked on ways to make things better. I still love the closeness and satisfying him. We really try to be honest about how things have changed and approach the problem as team. He makes special efforts to be romantic. I really appreciate it. I make efforts to provide more in the bedroom. We feel happy to be on the journey together. Sometimes you just have to acknowledge the reality and not pretend it’s all the same.

A lot of it is learning to accept change together or you’ll fall apart.

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