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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What’s there to resolve? They can either come or not. [/quote]

Exactly.  I wouldn’t disinvite over this, but would immediately step in if they make inappropriate comments (personally I think this is unlikely).[/quote]

+1. They need to get over themselves.

And, well done, OP, for demonstrating the WWJD lifestyle.

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Yes, this is just the spirit to honor thy mother and father according to the Commandments like all good Christians do.  :roll: Sounds like cafeteria Christianity.[/quote]

Inviting people to Christmas isn’t dishonoring your mother and father so I don’t even know what point you are trying to make here.[/quote]

It's pretty obvious. The in-laws have said this plan makes them uncomfortable. And rather than work with them to make them comfortable and keep everyone happy the only acceptable solution is to take a hard stance, tell the in-laws to just stay home, and pat yourself on the back for being such a loving Christian who brags about their charity to others. Who cares about the people who raised the husband after all? [/quote]
The in-laws can act like grownups for one meal. Or they can make other plans. Their choice.[/quote]

Yes, make the houseguests uncomfortable. That's the holiday spirit.[/quote]

The houseguests are making themselves uncomfortable.  [/quote]

A good host makes all their guests comfortable.[/quote]

Within reason.  Better yet, a good host gives all their guests the opportunity to be comfortable.  But a good host will not sacrifice the comfort of one guest for the comfort of another.  OP's neighbors aren't asking for the inlaws to be disinvited -- the inlaws are declaring that they will not allow themselves to be comfortable if the neighbors are there.[/quote]

Is the answer to disinvite the in-laws? I thought invites could not be rescinded?[/quote]

Of course invitations can be rescinded - I'm not the PP that said they couldn't.  You shouldn't rescind invitations except in extreme circumstances, but declaring that another guest is unwelcome certainly qualifies.  The answer is to inform the in laws that the neighbors are OPs guests, and if they can't treat the neighbors with kindness, or if they truly feel that they cannot enjoy themselves if the neighbors are there, then the in laws should stay home.[/quote]

The bait and switch is a raw deal for in-laws who made travel plans under the guise of a small and intimate family Christmas.  [/quote]

These things happen.  The in-laws are free to bail, but they can't demand that the other guests be kicked out.[/quote]

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