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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m an only child and I like being an only. I have two children and I really enjoy them both together and individually. They are such different people!

Don’t have a 2nd child for your other child. Have a 2nd because you want a 2nd child. Don’t worry about age differences because of some preconceived notion of good or bad sibling relationships. Time your pregnancy based on your mental and physical health, your finances, what season you want to be home on maternity leave, whatever matters to your and your partner. [/quote]

Now that I read that OP is a single parent, I vote against a 2nd kid. I have two kids in lower elementary and kid’s activities, sports, teacher work days, holidays, etc. are no joke. People with kids my kindergartner’s age are starting to have a 3rd and I don’t know how they will manage with two full time working parents. I joke to my friends with 1 or 2 that no one should have a 3rd kid unless they have experienced at least 2 years of school for their oldest. I don’t think anyone should have 4+ unless one parent stays home or you have a live in nanny or au pair. It not about having enough love/attention/money for two kids. It’s about physically not being able to be in 2 places at once. You can’t be at soccer and baseball at the same time. You can’t comfort two sick kids at the same time. You never / rarely get a break from both kids. With one kid, you will soon enter the world of drop off parties and play dates - which I imagine are amazing for a single parent so that you have an hour or two to run errands or just be alone. [/quote]

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