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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How would that be different from staying married?  Its parent's choice to pay.  You can always pay.[/quote]

For whatever reason, divorced dads are statistically less likely to pay for their kids' college than married ones. [/quote]

Isn't it because they are now paying alimony to the their formerly non working ex-SAHM wife, and often child support too while having to pay for their new apartment/house as well?

This occurs even when the SAHW was responsible--cheating, etc.[/quote]

Your children have nothing to do with your wrong choice to marry a no career woman who stayed at home. [/quote]

I would hope she would get a job to help contribute to the college fund.  I mean, it's not like she can use taking care of kids anymore once she's in empty nest..and divorced so truly only herself to look after.[/quote]

And in retaliation you left your kids without college education. Now your kids  and grandkids will be blue collar workers: are you happier?

Bachelors is new GED. Most people in this area have PhDs[/quote]

It's not him retaliating. It's her being selfish. If he's paying alimony and CS to a non-working XW who could work, and thus he can't afford to pay for his kids college, it is her decision that is ruining his kids lives, not his. His money is finite, and if men with guns force him to give his money to his XW, with the best will in the world he can't come up with more money for his kids college.[/quote]

I am talking about a situation when dad who makes $300k is being petty over his $1000 CS spent by lower paid exW on kids staying  with her during winter breaks. That’s obviously not enough. Such men don’t pay for college [/quote]

If he makes $300k and CS is $1000/mo then she makes at least $100k. She is NOT poor. She is the one who is being petty if she demands $1000/mo money “because kids are with her on winter break” rather than spending it on college costs. If she pays $12k out of “her” CS while he pays $36k (75:25 split based on respective income) that is a totally fair split. If he’s gotta pay $48k for college AND give her $12k to do whatever she wants with, that is entirely unfair to him.[/quote]

You're being an impossible petty jerk. No that's not entirely correctly prorated by law calculation. The CS is given to her to equalize her household with yours. College is a separate financial obligation. Just stop, we agree to disagree[/quote]

The child is no longer at her home.  If she noises to use the child support for her needs she as no right to complain.   Neither parent is obligated to pay for college but dad is supporting child with mom not only not contributing but also taking the money for themselves.  Child can stay with dad summers and holidays if mom has no space.  [/quote]

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