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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How would that be different from staying married?  Its parent's choice to pay.  You can always pay.[/quote]

For whatever reason, divorced dads are statistically less likely to pay for their kids' college than married ones. [/quote]

Isn't it because they are now paying alimony to the their formerly non working ex-SAHM wife, and often child support too while having to pay for their new apartment/house as well?

This occurs even when the SAHW was responsible--cheating, etc.[/quote]

Your children have nothing to do with your wrong choice to marry a no career woman who stayed at home. [/quote]

I would hope she would get a job to help contribute to the college fund.  I mean, it's not like she can use taking care of kids anymore once she's in empty nest..and divorced so truly only herself to look after.[/quote]

And in retaliation you left your kids without college education. Now your kids  and grandkids will be blue collar workers: are you happier?

Bachelors is new GED. Most people in this area have PhDs[/quote]

It's not him retaliating. It's her being selfish. If he's paying alimony and CS to a non-working XW who could work, and thus he can't afford to pay for his kids college, it is her decision that is ruining his kids lives, not his. His money is finite, and if men with guns force him to give his money to his XW, with the best will in the world he can't come up with more money for his kids college.[/quote]

I am talking about a situation when dad who makes $300k is being petty over his $1000 CS spent by lower paid exW on kids staying  with her during winter breaks. That’s obviously not enough. Such men don’t pay for college [/quote]

That absolutely isn't true however, that $1K should be used for college and living expenses.  A child visiting with mom on winter break is a visit, not living here and Mom is being greedy by demanding Dad pay her child support and still pay all expenses and college tuition/room/board.  That's not how it works.  The $1K goes as part of Dad's share, Mom pays a share, and then the parents can discuss with the child the remaining balance.  $12K a year is a lot of money given mom should also be paying part of her income to expenses.  Child support is not alimony.  Mom needs to move into housing she can afford alone and child can stay with Dad during the holiday if space is an issue.  If he's paying $1K a month in child support after 18, that is his contribution to college.  [/quote]

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