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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] The biggest issue we had (but really only if you were from an upper middle class suburban background) was the fact that our parents - especially mothers - despised us as a burden that prevented them from pursuing all those wonderful life-expanding experiences that the likes of Betty Friedan and other toxic wretches promised them.

It's hard for other generations to fully "get" but we had a whole generation of parents who regretted having us and did their best to pretend we didn't exist.  I think a lot of this was jealousy of younger Boomer women who had access to all the jobs and social adventures that they were denied.  Imagine being born in 1938 and in 1970 being told by all the cool kids that you were too old and "Don't trust anyone over 30."  But instead of being good adults they just turned into spiteful a-holes and took it out on their burdens (children).

A lot of people my age from suburban NY experienced this, and now we need to pay the bills for these hateful old bats as they get into their 80s.  Fun fun.[/quote]

+1 Gen X from upstate NY, although I do love Betty Friedan's work and her Christmas fruitcake.  She ID'ed a problem, didn't create it.  [/quote]

Generational x er here who was not from upstate New York. I was raised upper middle class in an area with a lot of wealth. Our mothers were the anti-feminists and they still saw us as a burden. Our moms didn't dream of amazing jobs, they dreamed of wealth without the work of parenting. Our moms catered to difficult, but often high earning husbands and they pressured us to be perfect so our daddies would be pleased. They too took out all their stress on us and turned into spiteful a-holes because hubby could never spend enough on them.With age they have become worse now that the prestige of their wife-to person-with-fancy-job title holds no clout and they aren't going on fancy vacations and eating at the most expensive restaurants. Constant woe is me with zero gratitude.My life is a sea of stress and I am just grateful when a receptionist is kind, a doctors appointment starts on time and my kids have a good day at school.[/quote]

You really hit the nail on the head.  With my mom (77), it is constant woe is me, regrets that she didn't travel as widely as she hoped and disappointment with their financial status and of course, my dad...[/quote]
Sounds like a disease of affluence.  My own mid-70's parents were penniless immigrants who both worked in a low-prestige family business.  They saved and invested well, made sure I got a great education, and assisted with babysitting when my kids were young.  They now enjoy the fruits of their hard work, travelling yearly to their home country, boasting about the grandkids, and trying to stay as fit as they can for as long as possible.  They went from being dealt a sh*tty hand to throwing down a royal flush.  I hope to have them around for a long time.[/quote]

MMA Gen X kid (born in ‘71) and my parents are mid 80s and are not difficult at all. They were great parents then and are great parents now. And my mom was a SAHM who fully bought into Betty Friedan etc. I think some of you just had bad parents and think everyone’s parents are like that because those of us with healthy family dynamics don’t get on here and complain. [/quote]

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