Reply to Does anyone else find ‘cherish these moments’ parenting advice a little traumatizing?

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "Does anyone else find ‘cherish these moments’ parenting advice a little traumatizing? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is like you are hiking on a trail. The people who are coming back might say, "that next part is a bear." Or, "didn't the part you just finished have spectacular views?" They are not being smug or competitive or mean. They are sharing the journey you are both on.

If you were not so exhausted and overwhelmed, you could probably take it as it is meant. I just don't think you realize that your strong negative reaction emanates from your quality of life right now, not the friendly women who is looking fondly at your beautiful child. [/quote]

What was "a bear" to you might be easy to them, and what might have been a "spectacular view" for you might have been the part that triggered their vertigo. Do you get it yet? The same journey for everyone is not, indeed, the same.

How about just smile as you pass, and if someone looks like they are struggling or worried, ask if there's anything you can do to help--then, RESPECT THE ANSWER, no matter what it is and what you think it should be.[/quote]

Why don't you just learn some basic conversational and social skills and if someone says "you're almost there!" on the trail you smile, nod, say thanks, or whatever, and not think too hard about it. 99% of people don't give much of an answer to slight encouragement. If it's not for you, just nod. They don't need your life story about aches and pains, vertigo, or what you really thought of a particular leg or view.[/quote]

Here's some basic social skills: not everyone wants to give you the attention and validation you so desperately seek. Some of us prefer to spend our time out with our baby with our baby, or our time hiking alone just hiking alone. I don't exist to give you attention and stroke your ego, Oh Wise Older Mother. [/quote]

Who are you talking to? I hear these things I didn't say I say them. But I know how to respond and not sound crazy. Social skills. Learn them. You aren't the first person to ever have a baby. When you go out in public you will encounter all types. Stop being surprised and model appropriate behavior for going out in pubic with your baby.[/quote]

I think it's perfectly appropriate to tell a stranger to buzz off. I hope my daughters will learn that they don't have to take patronizing crap from literal strangers. [/quote]

Yes please tell your daughters to mouth off to every stranger she meets who say something she doesn't like. What could possibly go wrong?[/quote]

If it’s an old biddy yammering on about How It Was With My Billy, probably nothing. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics