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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, knowing how a big percentage gets in on different quotas or by using their money, connections etc., it makes one  question eligibility of every applicant. Even for everyone who gets in on merit, there are 10 equally or more eligible who doesn't get accepted because admission officers have personal biases which play for for against every applicant.   [/quote]

Totally agree.  So many kids get into these schools are legacy admits or have some other connection to the school.  I know this personally in my own family.  The kids in my family who were admitted did well in school but were not the superstar kids that you would expect.  It is not a merit system.  That is why with my own DD, I do not care what she does or what college she goes to (thought she does have legacy to an ivy through her father).   I wish that kids and parents were better aware of the system, so that they wouldn't be so disappointed or think that they were not "good enough."  They are plenty good enough; they just weren't lucky enough to be born into a networked family.

There have been studies that show that the college that one attends does not have an impact on success or income 10 years out of college (except for the underprivileged where the connections of a good school give a boost).  Elite schools are in place to help elites maintain their privilege.[/quote]

This is true in some cases, but there are lots of kids who work like crazy to stand out and merit acceptance. We have no ties to any of the Ivies/T10 my kid go into. We are MC and need (and got) FA. Many of the kids my kid knows are not legacy and were just outstanding students. Mine won nat'l awards, NMSF, Capt of sports team, pres of clubs, all the honor societies, submitted arts portfolios, wrote great essays, etc etc. Many of the kids she's meeting worked on a similar level. Sure, there will be kids for whom connections gave a big boost, but most just worked hard and stood out.

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+1. I think some ppl are really overestimating just how many legacies attend these schools.[/quote]

Maybe.

But it is not just legacies, most people who get into that school have parents or caregivers who have the cultural knowledge/capital to help guide their kid to a place where they have a chance of being successful.  I guess these days, with information being at everyones fingertips via the interent, it is a little easier to come from a background where you nor your parents literally have never met anyone who went to an Ivy, and still get into one.[/quote]

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