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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Our school community has lots of bilingual (and trilingual) families. It would never occur to me that speaking to eachother in their native tongue would be considered rude or a faux pas. [/quote]

Well, now you know![/quote]

+1. In front of other people who don't speak the language actively excluding them? Yes, rude. Do people come from places with no manners? Wasn't there a thread about how rude it is to turn a back on someone recently and how in most cultures that is rude? This is the same thing. [/quote]

Parents practicing OPOL are excluding the other parent all the time and [b]somehow survive unscathed.[/b] It’s fine.[/quote]

You sure about that?   There's never been a single divorce in such families?[/quote]

You don’t know why they divorce and it’s just as common in monolingual families.

I don’t understand 70% of conversation between my DH and my children, and it doesn’t bother me one bit.[/quote]

Yes, if you feel a certain way that means everyone else feels the exact same way.   Got it.[/quote]

I’m just telling you a very common thing in bi and trilingual families.[/quote]

And I'm just telling you that speaks very poorly of very common bi and trilingual families.[/quote]

Why tho?[/quote]

BECAUSE IT'S RUDE. You're basically saying that teaching your child to be bi or trilingual is more important to you than teaching them manners. And that speaks very poorly of bi and trilingual familes -- that they are raising rude children.

Hate to say it, but many people on this thread may not realize it's the norm to not speak in another language in front of those that don't understand it because they are from somewhere else. But that's the norm here. So now you know.[/quote]

Sounds a lot like a white supremacist cultural norm to me...[/quote]

There are non white people who actually have manners too, you know.   The idea that only white people are educated in common courtesy is pretty racist.[/quote]

Yes, but this isn't common courtesy. This is a very specific cultural belief that you think is universal because you think a specific white cultural habit is universal.  And you're trying to impose it on families from other ethnic groups. Respecting that other people have different cultural beliefs is in fact common courtesy that you are lacking. [/quote]

You're saying their are "ethnic groups" and "cultures" that specifically [b]prioritize [/b] anti-social behavior?   And that when these "ethnic groups" and "cultures" move to a DIFFERENT culture, the onus is on the the different culture to respect their belief--specifically when they've been called to socialize with them?

Please name these "ethnic groups" and "cultures" who prioritize rudeness.   I'd really like to know the specific ones.   I've visited with native people in dozens of countries and on every continent but Oceana.  I've never encountered a "cultural belief" like this--but I admit I haven't experienced EVERY culture.  Please let me know who the rude people are![/quote]

What’s rude and anti social is culture specific. [/quote]

So let's be specific!   What SPECFIC "ethnic groups" and "cultures" feel it is ok to have a conversation, right in front of someone you have invited into your home/been invited into their home, when you know they will not be able to understand?    Which ethnic groups and cultures have this as part of their "culture?"

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All these PPs that are so proud they are doing this (having conversations they know their guest/host can not understand) should be PROUDLY stating their "ethnic group" or "culture" right now!     It's part of your CULTURE!  Music?  Nah!   Food?  Nah!   Art?  Nah!    Being a jerk?   Heck yeah!  That's what your people are all about, right?

I actually think you're full of it.   Your parents/grandparents, etc. would be ashamed of you if they knew.  [/quote]

I’m Armenian. My husband is Arab. I’ve also met French, Russian, Turkish, Chinese and Colombian parents doing the same thing. What unites us is the desire to pass our languages to our children. None of us is bothered by a parent speaking their language to our child in front of us.[/quote]

Thank you [/quote]

80% of the time like in the OPs situation? If so then why bother getting together with a friend if you're using the entire time as your language lesson? Do that on your own time.
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It’s not 80% of the total play date tune, it’s 80% of the total speaking-to-child time, which could have been a total to two minutes as far as we know. I mean how much of the play date time do you spend talking to your child? Not much.[/quote]

That's an assumption. We have no idea how many words or minutes. But some parents like to narrate and talk way too much to their kids. I don't find it hard to believe that this might have been a very overbearing parent who wouldn't back off and let the kids just play.[/quote]

Kids who need narration are really not yet old enough for play dates.[/quote]

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