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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He is using your child to undermine you, which undermines your relationship with your child. Don't let him do it. Tell you kid now, and keep telling them again and again and again for years, that they have to run things by you first. This is a no-brainer parenting rule anyway. If they want to get in the car with someone else's mom at pickup -- no, they have to run that by their mom first. They want to walk to the corner store with their 7 year old friend -- no, they have to run that by you first. At friend A's house and decides to go to friend B's house for a while -- they have to run that by your first. ETC. Keep reenforcing that because that is parenting 101. When grandpa says they're going to do X, Y or Z -- DC should say, YAY!! Let me ask my mom if that's okay.

Grandfather is a jerk.[/quote]

Grandfather has been called everything from a jerk to an ass on this thread - such an overreaction to a minor instance that can be resolved with some cooperation and conversation.[/quote]

Sort of hard to resolve things with cooperation and conversation when the other person stomps away, like grandfather did. Plus he is the parent. That shouldn't be on OP's shoulders. OP has enough on her plate now, being a parent of a young child. She can't also parent her father so he learns how to behave. He should go to a therapist for that, or at least take responsibility for his actions.

No doubt this was not a "minor instance"; more likely the last in a chain of many.

Grandfather is an immature, selfish, destructive jerk. [/quote]

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