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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The only thing OP said her DH did was make fun of her outfit.  It's not clear if he refused to let her come to the party unless she changed, or if OP was pissed off at his bumblebee comment and refused to go to the party.  The first scenario is abuse.  The second scenario is super immaturity on OP's part.

I am surprised so many people are calling him abusive when OP's original facts are so lacking.

OP - we need more info. [/quote]

Enough of your trolling!

There's absolutely nothing that can justify OP's husband mocking her outfit , having their children movk her outfit. Getting upset when she didn't change and then taking their kids and leaving because he didn't get his way.
That's abusive behavior period.

We don't excuse abusive behavior on DCUM so I suggest you go troll elsewhere.[/quote]

If my DH's outfit looks absurd, like shirt too short and pants too low, I tell him I won't be seen with him, and our daughter mocks him too until he changes.  Its because we care that he not embarass himself.

I just don't understand the double standard here.  If you are a true feminist like me (I am a 3rd generation college educated mother, financially independent, and the bread winner of my home), well then it goes both ways.  If I look like  a bumble bee, I want to know too.[/quote]

Nice "attempt" at a humble brag.

Clearly such an accomplished 3rd generation, college educated, mother, financially independent bread winner never learned that you get more bees with honey.

I'd never have to resort to insulting my DH or THREATENING that I won't be seen with him, and I certainly wouldn't have to resort to having our child join in and mock him (mother of the year!) to get my husband to change.
All I would have to do is tell him that what he was wearing isn't the most flattering on him, and he has so many other shirts, pants, whatever that make him look great -- then I'd make a suggestion of what DOES look great on him.

Being a "true feminist" doesn't mean invalidating, emasculating or being inconsiderate of the men in your life.

It seems in all of your "accomplishments", positive communication isn't something you've ever learned.

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