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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not everyone wants to attend a BBQ with Big Bird.[/quote]

Wow.

[u]OP's husband flipped out[/u] ... "[b]When DH saw me he flipped out[/b]" ... right there. That is NOT gentle ribbing about her outfit. His comment about her outfit was him "flipping out" and was no "we care about you" comment.
[u]OP's husband mocked he[/u]r by calling her an insect [b]"He told me I looked like an insect because of the top being bright yellow, and said to our boys, “doesn’t mom look like a bumble bee”" [/b]and encouraged her sons to agree with him. Civilized people don't mock other people and we don't encourage others to mock other people. That is bullying.
[u]OP's husband left without her[/u] basically saying he didn't want to be seen with somebody who made clothing choices that he didn't agree with.

[u]Anybody telling her to compromise[/u] - NO. You don't compromise when you are being bullied and controlled for no good reason. 
T[u]o those of you who suggest she was immature for not picking up the phone[/u], I disagree, it sounds as if she was enforcing good boundaries and not talking to the person who was bullying her until she was ready. I think this was a mature decision.
[u]To those of you who suggest she should have still gone to the party,[/u] that's a red herring and irrellevant. If she'd wanted to and had the money and access to an uber she could have. But maybe she didn't want to be seen with a contrilling bully, maybe she didn't want to risk a scene, maybe she just wanted to not be in public after that.

There is NO excuse for what her DH did. No reason to blame OP for anything. You are projecting.

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